The life of success comes from being able to see the lowest of the lows and the highest of the highs and the emotions that I get to experience from them. Otherwise my life would look like a flat line. When incidents arise like a notice from your landlord, flat tire, a car that won’t start, bills piling up, it just means there’s no where else but up. I am grateful for today, and all the blessings from the Universe that tells me there is something greater than this point A. There’s a point B, C, D and Z…I have never failed in seeing the beauty on the other side of grey clouds. When the clouds lift, it’s only sunshine. I take note of these days to say thank you for only better ones!!!!!
In the past 90 days, I set upon 4 goals - 1) Run a 1/2 Marathon 2) Increase my network by sharing 8 Raw life Journals of the Art of my Life in order to create more intimate relationships with those who don’t and do know me. 3) Buy the Car of my Dreams and 4) Build a strong community of positive thinking people around me to keep me being the best person I can be.
This week I turned 35. It’s been an interesting journey for me. I made a grateful list of 35 things I’m grateful for and the most important one was “I am grateful for my LIFE”
Whether we believe in reincarnation, heaven, hell or what so ever, there’s only one chance to experience the life that you are living right now.
Every day I make the decision to live out my greatest enjoyments in life. This request has served me well. ‘Ive decided to • follow the fun, • the love and • the happiness.
Wednesday I spent the entire day preparing my thoughts for a 5min, 2nd audition to do a Tedtalks for the Tedx in Vancouver in October. I never felt so reminiscent of the turning points in my life that ended me up where have chosen to make as my life. I talked about how I’ve learned to listen to the 5 year old little child who knew that she could dance and begged my older brother’s
Teacher to put me on stage so I can dance Michael Jackson. By listening to her courageous self, she has walked me into the most interesting adventures throughout my life.
My partner and best friend were off to Calgary on my birthday weekend to help be superheroes for people’s lives (they’re empowerment coaches). I didn’t want to be alone, so I jumped in and was onto a new adventure.
We took a one day trip out to see my parents on my actual birthday. I had a couple hours to play with my 2 year old nephew as he talked about his cars and kept running his cute body into me. We both tumbled and bopped about in the house all morning. So much FUN!!
We took off for Calgary that day. I volunteered a day with a dynamic workshop where drama meets life empowerment. We learned about the ‘creative seeds’ that gets planted in our minds when we see something we are attracted to and from that, grow a skit, poem, or story out of what was found. Amazing! We performed all the pieces that were made in the 3 days from how to avoid negative thinking to using your imagination to escape to yelling out all the things you are grateful for while jumping off a trampoline. I think school always be like this.
That propelled the day into a backyard BBQ for a friend who turned 30, meanwhile in between the day I released a video montage of 30 years since my first performance ever.
The BBQ was a backyard of food and friends laughing, sharing stories and meeting new people. It ended up with an evening of dancing and costumes.
I got a chance to sleep in, my friend Minh and Sean prepared a pulled pork Benny breakfast for me. We hurried over to the Sun and Salsa Festival on Kensington to battle in the Popping and All Style Battle. It was full so I couldn’t sign up. I loved watching the Calgary dance community come out and instead i enjoyed giving love to them. I saw soooo many of the friends I’ve made from the sold out show, Invisible show that I did last month at Theatre Grand . In between battles, I jumped into the cypher to swim in my youthful world of freestyle dance! I felt so alive!
It was such a short interval between battles, so we were seated before we knew it. I wanted the fun to continue.
After going off to take a potty break and a lemonade, we returned to the outdoor parking lot where the battles were held and blew bubbles in the wind while people walked into to watch the dancers. A fellow cypherer saw me and asked about my ball. Now, only Dianna David would be walking around with a 4” red ball in her leather purse. I pulled it out and my friend Minh continued blowing bubbles at me while I showed him how it worked. Before I knew it, I looked up to see a crowd formed all around me. My friend said, “looks like you’re going to have to keep going!”
I was brought back to 8 years back when I would spend my summers, pulling along my huge amplifier and starting up street shows on Market St, entertaining San Francisco
tourists every weekend. I had a HUGE reminder of something I am
good at and I felt so free to do it. I loved the dialogue we all had as dancers jumped in, passing the energy ball and even pulled off a
Friendly 3 on 3 battle that ended with a Bubble Storm to close the impromptu creation! This was such a big gift to share and I loved to be
followed my heart that lead me here.
In my Tedtalk I had a line where I said, “Today, I am living a life my
5 year old little girl always knew I could live.”
Think about the 5 year old version of yourself. What if you could live with the same passion, courage, and love for life as they did?
Imagine how different your life would be!!!
Make every day your birthday!
Life Lesson #4 : Reputation vs. Character
For a period of time I lived up to a reputation my parents defined for me. Of course, two first generation immigrants to Canada, who came from a poor country, saw their highest achievements came with obedient children who strove to achieve what looked like success in their eyes - a steady, well paying job, security to pay bills on time, a home, a car and money to go on yearly vacations. Because in their world, that never existed. At the time, it seemed like a very simple step-by-step process to follow to achieve the end all result of success they so wanted to see in me.
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” - Dale Carnegie
Two years ago, I struggled when I was voted #1 leader of a women leadership conference, and I couldn’t quite understand why I couldn’t accept the ranking whole heartedly. Deep in my heart, I felt almost like a fraud, knowing that I can show everyone what a good leader looks, acts, and speaks like, but I myself did not feel that in my core. I sure fooled them I thought, but ok, this doesn’t feel right.
I saw that I was operating my drive for success by filling the ‘reputation’ box, where what I did was driven by if it made me look reputable and was worth admiring, but what I was missing was the belief in my character that I could actually be it. I never looked at the qualities I had to possess in order to be it.
Well, our character is the core to who we really are. Our character is what we choose to do in the midst of adversity, do we fight or fly, do we say YES or do we say I DON’T KNOW, do we STAY or do we GO? Our character is the hard true facts about everything that we are, our weakness and our strengths and how we deal with them…today.
Building my character is a constant choice every moment of the day. By building my sense of character, I’ve gained confidence in myself, commitment to my relationships, created a daily practice of acceptance and gratitude, and a nurturing attitude towards my mastery, no matter what people say, because this is how I’ve understood myself to be. This is what automatically builds a reputation of someone who possess all the characteristics of success. This is Authentic Success.
We know that success is not a destination, it is the journey. In the end, wouldn’t you want to be Full of Life instead of just fulfilling life?
Where in your life do you feel you’re just fulfilling life to feed your reputation instead of building your character to live full of life in what ever you do?
Define the box that YOU are filling.
This is me and a bunch of little boys at a private all boys school called St. George’s. No matter what status, what age, what gender, what location, we all can make things real.
LIFE LESSON #3
TO BELIEVE OR NOT TO BELIEVE.
In Mime, I learned that even when things are not there, you as the artist have to believe it so much that the audience believes it too. It goes the same in life. How much of our life do we say we want to do something and never do it because we don’t even believe it in ourselves.
Belief is the catalyst to action. Belief is the tool that brings the invisible into reality, ideas into action, feelings into expression. I today sometimes say, “I can’t believe I did that”. Fact is, without belief, it wouldn’t have ever happened in the first place. Without me as a mime on stage demonstrating the shape of an apple and eating it, my audience would never know what I am doing…”Hello, I’m eating an apple”. I make it real. I make it exist. I see it first. I make it believable. If I am careless about what I am doing, my audience will be just as confused, and so will the Universe. Being clear and believing in my actions makes things become what I want it to look and feel like. It’s that simple.
We are the creators of how we want it to look like, we just have to believe that we are and decide on how it’s suppose to look like.
Was there a time in your life where you saw it come to life in your mind’s eye first and then you literally walked right into it? Tell me about it.
'Till next post! Rock it out!
The beauty of teaching is seeing all your experienced play out in front of you. You see what you know, but you also discover new things you don’t know. I am so happy to be able to be sharing these workshops with everyone!” - Dianna David
The beauty of teaching is seeing all your experiences play out in front of you. You see what you know, but you also discover new things you don’t. I am so happy to be able to be sharing these workshops with everyone!” - Dianna David
March 12, 2013
Today I decided to start speaking my truth. So, as manifestation has it, a (not so surprising) email surprised me in FB inbox. It was my niece who is a young adult now had insisted I continue my blog because she always found them inspiring. It was a nudge from the Universe. And so this is so…
I was quite hesitant to start speaking online. In fact, the cyber world was something I was afraid of. After an eye-opening discussion with some dear friends who said, all I see you do is post your events, classes and performances, I don’t even know who you are. People online now a days create relationships, you’re not just a company blasting sales and ads all over the place, you’re a person.
So Hello Cyber World…Nice to Meet you…I guess this is me…
So, in the later parts of last year I went on an internal search. I mean, if I wanted to stay up to date with the evolving times, be a contributor to the world, and be authentic, I definitely had some work to do. Time to start shedding some skin here baby. They said the world was going to end December 21, I think my new world just started then…as it did for everyone I guess.
By the end of this month I’ll be reaching my 6th month of devotion to yet again, understanding my new truths. Even more so, when I pulled out my calculator, at the end of March, I will be reaching my 10th year anniversary from quitting my engineering job. Holy MFG! Yah!
Looking back at some of the things that have helped me in this journey, I wanted to share with you some of the things I’ve learned.
LIFE LESSON #1
ACCEPTANCE OF TODAY: In life we are either moving towards or moving away from something. Like this picture. I left engineering to go towards a dream to perform, teach and affect lives as well as towards my deeper understanding of my humanness to live in full acceptance with my sexuality.I was also moving away from a life of expectation, rules, and status quo challenges of what ‘success’ was suppose to look like.
Today, I can finally see that the journey towards success doesn’t look the same across the board. It wasn’t linear. It was a dot. A spot, a point. With my very logical mind, this was a hard one to grasp. I struggled with placing a label on me so that I could define an identity. Am I just a Hip Hop Dancer, an engineer, nope, how about a performing artist, what kind of artist, not a poor one, someone who makes a lot of money…is that possible?
The truest acceptance of success is the truest acceptance of where you are today, what you believe in today, what you are feeling today. Not right, wrong, good or bad, it is exactly what it is. That is the only truth that you know, and nothing else. So when we can live truly in the moment of full appreciation of what is happening right now, it will give us the answers to which direction we so choose to go from here. It’s like playing. You get lost in the moment, you love every moment of it, you’re fully engaged and you’re perfectly in the right place at the right time…or not and you laugh about it.
Stay tuned for more Life Lessons. Thank you Bea for inspiring me to stay connected and share my story. And so it shall.